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Debate Score:53
Arguments:28
Total Votes:87
Ended:09/26/08
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Is it better to be loved or feared?

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Loved

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Feared

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3 points

It's better to be loved than feared because if you are loved by everyone then when ever you need a favor you'll always have someone who is willing to help you out.

On the other hand if you are feared by everyone then you will probably be lonely with no friends and you'll have nobody when you need something because there wont be anyone that will want to be around you.

Side: Loved
2 points

I would prefer to be loved because not only would people love you but they would respect you and believe in you. In most cases people think that the only way to be respected is to make people fear you but that's not true. Noone really likes to trust someone if they fear them. Even yet when someone fears you they don't speak to you because they are scared, so it's better to be loved than feared!

Side: Loved
2 points

For me it is better for someone to be loved than to be feared. Being feared for me means that everyone would probably not like you and you'll feel alone. While on the other hand being loved can make you feel protected by ones that love you and you wont feel lonely.

Side: Loved
2 points

Its better to be loved then feared. People who are feared feel like they have all the power in the world because they are feared by everyone. However, having everyone scared of you isn't such a great thing. Being loved means that you respect people and they respect you, not out of fear but out of trust and that is something I think everyone would perfer to have.

Side: Loved
1 point

its better to be loved, because if someone fears you they wont talk to you. If you are loved, you will meet new people and be better acquainted with them.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think it is better to be loved, because then you will always have friends, and always have someone there for you, and when you are in trouble the people that love you will support you.

Side: Loved

I thinks its better to be loved then feared. You don't want to be a person everybody its scared of, because when your feared everybody tries to stay away from you. When your loved you get attention everybody looks up to you, and you know that you always have somebody there for you whenever you need help.

Side: Loved
1 point

It is probably better to be loved than feared; although if one knows how, they can intertwine both aspects with each other for self-advantage.

If you are loved, it is easier for people to trust you; the more they trust you, the more they'll confide in you, which will eventually lead to exposure of their vulnerabilities.

At this stage, you will know enough about them to know how to handle and, if necessary, manipulate them.

You'll know what to expect from them so if that person thinks about betraying you, you'll be ready to deal with that person while ensuring your pride and prestige.

Side: Loved
1 point

Love brings nothing but positivity, if you are truly loved than you are bonded with them, there tends to be unity and cohesiveness. If you are loved you are much better off than someone who is feared because fear tends to bring negativity such as resentment. If you fear someone there is no relationship or unity.

Side: Loved
tariqsamira(21) Disputed
2 points

A lot of times, love doesn't last. The bond, unity, and cohesiveness are gone.

When a strong relationship doesn't work out, the positive feelings become negative. There is either mutual hate and resentment or there is nothing left because basically you gave it your all and you still lost.

So love doesn't bring other things besides positivity.

Side: Feared
1 point

It's better to be loved, usually people that fear you are so afraid they will tend to do and think of stupid and scary things to do to you. If you're loved they won't think that way, because they love you and wouldn't do anything to hurt you.

Side: Loved
1 point

To be loved or feared.It's better to be loved by others than to feared.Showing that your being loved, there's nothing to worry about,But still you have to be careful around other people that you might not know their backgrounds.

Side: Loved
1 point

With love comes respect.I think that it is better to be loved then feared because being feared can also mean being in danger. If people fear you on the streets that could make them want to prove them self as a bigger person and kill you or something.And when you are loved everybody cares about you and makes you feel like a good person and makes you feel good about living.

Side: Loved
1 point

With love comes respect.I think that it is better to be loved then feared because being feared can also mean being in danger. If people fear you on the streets that could make them want to prove them self as a bigger person and kill you or something.And when you are loved everybody cares about you and makes you feel like a good person and makes you feel good about living.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think for me it is better to b loved than feared because being loved gives satisfaction. When you are feared you only get false affection and trust from others. When someone fear us we are only creating hate insted of love.

Side: Loved
1 point

In my opinion I would rather be loved than feared. Because by being loved people care about you, respect you and it makes you feel that you mean something for someone. Instead by being feared most likely the people around you only respect you because they’re scared and it’s just a fake feeling.

Side: Loved
0 points

It is better to be loved because, when people love you they respect you. If people fear you they only pretend to respect you. Fear leads to hate.

Side: Loved
1 point

I agree with what's your saying because it is so true. I've seen people who just pretend to respects others,but really they're just faking it.

Side: Loved
0 points

I would rather be loved than feared because you will have people who care for you. If you are feared then people might not want to talk to you because they will think you are mean.

Side: Loved
-4 points
tariqsamira(21) Disputed
2 points

Actually, people who are loved also tend be envied by those who don't have the love that they want.

Sometimes that envy becomes so strong that that person wants to have the source of their envy destroyed.

At least, when you're feared, you're prepared to ensure your safety because you know there are people after, while if you are loved, that makes it more difficult to know who wants you dead.

Side: Feared
-1 points

It is better to be feared because then people will respect you. If you are loved most people would still try to take advantage of you, but being feared means nobody will treat you like dirt.

Side: Feared
keldiaz(18) Disputed
2 points

Actually when you are feared people do respect you but inside they hate you so much so they are just waiting to do something to you. On the other hand when you are loved you make that connection with the people so they honor you and give you respect.

Side: Loved
Reyna09(18) Disputed
0 points

That's not necessary true you wont try to take advantage of people you really love and care for. Plus people who fear you can still treat you like dirt to try to make it seem like they don't fear you.

Side: Loved
-2 points
Reyna09(18) Disputed
0 points

Being feared does not necessarily means that you are respected. To respect somebody means to look up to them, to put them on a higher level than others. Most people don't look up to people they fear, if anything they hate them. When you are loved by everyone, you are also respected. If you are loved by everyone then the person you love will also love you back.

Side: Loved
0 points

I agree with what you said, but if you are feared, people won't want to be around you out of paranoia of invoking your wrath.

Side: Feared
nfreshour09(1) Disputed
1 point

why wouldn't you want people to be around you?

Side: Loved