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Debate Score:53
Arguments:26
Total Votes:81
Ended:09/26/08
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Is it better to be loved or feared?

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Loved

Side Score: 41
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Feared

Side Score: 12
4 points

I think that it would be better to be loved than feared. If you are loved than you are emotionally close with someone and that relationship will be a strong one. On the other hand, if you are feared then people respect you only to your face. I also think that if you are feared that there will always be people who will want to take your position or get rid of you.

Side: Loved
1 point

That's a good point.

Side: Loved
3 points

I think its better to be loved than feared because you will be good with eveybody. Nobody likes the person that is mean to everybody. If you are loved everybody is on your side, but if u are feared everybody wants to take you out.

Side: Loved
3 points

It is better to be loved. People that love you tend to be nicer and more on your side than if you are feared. When you fear someone you tend to be two-faced, you don't really respect them, they just do it to do what is in there best interest.

Side: Loved
2 points

I think it's better to be a little bit of both. For me, personally, I'd rather be loved a lot more than being feared. Like Coldplay's song, "Viva la Vida", Chris Martin (lead singer) says, "...Feel the fear in my enemy's eyes..." I like that lyric, because of it's meaning. In the heat of the moment, if you're feared by someone, you probably are going to "feel the fear", the intimidation, etc.

I'm just not the type of person that would love to be feared upon. I wouldn't want to harm anyone in anyway, so why would I want to be a sight of fright?

Side: Loved
2 points

If you are loved because you are feared, are you really loved at all. If everybody fears you nobody loves you and no one can live a life without love.

Side: Loved
brefields(6) Disputed
1 point

i think that you will be loved because everyone knows you will protect them

Side: Feared
2 points

It is better to be loved for who you are, rather than to be loved because of fear. Being forced to love someone because of fear isn't right.

Side: Loved
2 points

I think it's better to be love then feared. If your loved then your always going to have people their for you when you need them.

Side: Loved
2 points

I think it's better to be loved than to be be feared. If you're feared, there's no possible way you can be loved, and if you're loved, you can't be feared. I mean, it is ok to be feared every now and then, but I think it is better to be loved.

Side: Loved
2 points

If you were feared who would you have by your side? I'd rather have people who enjoy to be around me than people who change their personalities to be liked.

Side: Loved
1 point

I would rather be loved than feared, for example if your feared you would end up lonely for rest of you lifeand 2000 cats have a home to go to. but if your loved people will like to be around you and you will feel good about urself.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think it is more important to be loved than feared because if your loved by people you have their respect and they care for you, whereas if your feared, people feel like they HAVE to do things for you but they don't actually care for you and in the long run you don't really have people on your side.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think it is better to be loved then feared because love is a wonderful thing to experience then to have never been through it. It is better to be loved and go through with it knowing what love is all about then to never know how good it feels. Fear is just a coward not trying new things.

Side: Loved
1 point

It is probably better to be loved than feared; although if one knows how, they can intertwine both aspects with each other for self-advantage.

If you are loved, it is easier for people to trust you; the more they trust you, the more they'll confide in you, which will eventually lead to exposure of their vulnerabilities.

At this stage, you will know enough about them to know how to handle and, if necessary, manipulate them.

You'll know what to expect from them so if that person thinks about betraying you, you'll be ready to deal with that person while ensuring your pride and prestige.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think it is better to be loved, because with love comes respect. When you are feared no one respects you they only deal with you becaue you have the greater power.

Side: Loved
0 points

Ofcourse loved,who wants to be feared?Yes, being feared can MAKE people love you, but I doubt that love would be sincere!

Side: Loved
0 points

I think its better to love, because if your loved then you'll have many people to be their when you need them, and they would love you and care for you, but if you're feared then people would be scared to talk to you, and love you.

Side: Loved
0 points

When one is feared, they are usually more able to have people follow their lead. But who really wants to be feared? Who wants to have control of someone by force, not by choice? We are all equal human being and we should all love and be loved, not feared.

Side: Loved
tariqsamira(21) Disputed
1 point

Asking questions is a good way to involve the audience and stimulate their thoughts and emotions, but make some personal statements so that the audience will also be sure where they stand with you.

Side: Feared
0 points

I feel that being feared is better because, no one will try to cross you. Everyone will stay away from you. People will go around and say "Hey man, don't mess with him." And if you people that fear you, you have gotten into their mind, and in time you can control them by setting off that fear of you.

>=)

Side: Feared
sheyan2009(9) Disputed
1 point

So what happens when all of the "double crossers" cease their wrong doings. People will fear you rather then love you and you will die alone.

Side: Loved
0 points

I feel that it is better to be feared than loved, because even though you are loved you can be double crossed and hurt. If people are scared of you they wont even think about double crossing you. If you love you set yourself up to be hurt. If you are feared then people are feared than you wont get hurt.

Side: Feared
0 points

I feel that it’s better to be feared because you get to have more power. If you have more power you have more control. If you have control then that’s when you get respect. C.R.E.A.M. cash rules everything around me.

Side: Feared
dmurf13(13) Disputed
1 point

Fear is a very powerful thing but, cash isn't everything.

Side: Loved
-1 points

i feel i would rather be feared. because if you are loved then there is a possiblity people are going to take advatage of you. there going to think, well she is loved lets just push her around. not me i would rather be feared and then people would love me knowing that they will be protected. they will have a better chance knowing no one will run them over if there with me

:)

Side: Feared