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Loved Feared
Debate Score:55
Arguments:33
Total Votes:64
Ended:09/15/09
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Is it Better to be Loved or Feared? (5th)

Loved

Side Score: 51
Winning Side!
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Feared

Side Score: 4
5 points

Being feared had its perks, but id have to go with loved. simply beacuse of the fact that being afraid of someone with "power" is really nothing. People fear you doesnt exactly mean they respect you, their intimidated and care nothing for you.

Being loved is totally different. When your loved people do respect you. They don't fear you, they protect you, look out for you, admire you and all that good jazz! I would rather be loved than feared anyday, sure i might not be able to have that "power" of people being scared of but in reality everyone respects the kinda person they love with out having to feel threatened.

PS.

LOVE TEAM ALL THE WAY! :)

Side: Loved
1 point

i agree with her because shes right i mean why would u want to be feared.And when your loved it just makes u a better person of all.

Side: Loved
1 point

I agree girl, nice points and ways to demonstrate that the way to be loved is the way to go.

Side: Loved
4 points

It's better to be loved, the pros counterpoise the cons by a long shot when it comes to being loved. Being loved has almost no cons. The only possible cons that I can cerebrate are being hated on for all the love that you get.

The pros of being loved are gangster. You can make everything happen according to your own rhythm. People would love you enough to serve you, or be friendly enough to create a very good environment. You know.

With all the fear in the world, you can also get things done, but it won't be with the same voluntary attitude. It'll be with a scared demeanor. If someone loves you, they do something out of their own free will, which makes everyone happy. Fear will only have you in a state of temporary service, someone can end up rebelling.

Side: Loved
1 point

yes, yes i do agree.

oh and by the way you said con like 3 times in the begining mini paragraphs.

:p (L)

Side: Loved
4 points

Fear will only allow people to see the worst of you. Love helps people to embrace you for who you really are. If you would like to be a social outcast then being feared would most likely please you.

All people want to be loved in some shape or form, but I don't see why anyone would want to be feared because people think "oh if they fear me, then they will respect me". If you really think about it, who respects someone they fear? Wrestlers don't count.

If happiness, comfort, and respect are aspects of life that you want to be around, you should surround yourself with love.

Side: Loved
3 points

"...and the greatest of these is love." Love is the foundation of anything good in life. Life without love would be fearful within itself. It's better to be loved because that gives the ability to love. Being capable of loving is greater than fearing life, or fearing love, because if you cannot live or love, what point is there?

Side: Loved
2 points

it's better to be loved for me because i mean i would rather be loved then have someone fear me.Because i mean im a nice person i really dont want someone to fear me.That would make me feel like just hated by everyone thats not a good feeling.At least to me i mean everyone else is different so maybe they like to be feared or maybe it makes them feel better.

Side: Loved
2 points

being loved is better then being feared.

you'll feel better about yourself knowing

people loving you and care about you.

i dont think anyone would like to be

feared, and everyone hating you.

Side: Loved
2 points

I think it is allways better to be loved rather than be feared. If you are loved then you know that people love or like you for who you are. But if you are feared by everyone then really no one likes or loves you, they just fear you. And that can get very alone sometimes. Also you would not know if your familey will love you for who you are or just because they fear you.

Side: Loved
2 points

I believe that it is better to be loved than feared. Because being loved shows that you might care and being feared means your just mean. If though that might not all be true I just perfer to be loved than feared. I don't want anyone to fear me. That's not good.

Side: Loved
2 points

It is better to be loved. When you are loved it has many pros. Like knowing people who will have your back. Having the satisfaction that you have someone who loves you, even if its just one person. On the other hand when you are feared it may seem like you have a reputaion of bad things that you have done, but you can still be loved jusnt not by all.

Side: Loved
1 point

I agree with everything that your saying. I think that there just might be one person that loves you.

Side: Loved
1 point

i think it's better to be loved than it is to be feared, because think how lame it would be to have everyone not like you. It would suck, i would much prefer to just have everyone love me.

Side: Loved
1 point

It is better to be loved because if you are loved you will have more friends and family around you. On the other hand if you are feared you want have anyone because they will all be scared of you. So when you need someone or something it is most likely that you'll have someone there for you if you are loved than if you are feared.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think is is better to be loved rather then hated b/c if you are loved others will be more inclined to help you when your in need. For instance, if you are in the middle of no where and you are completely out of gas, it will be more likely that if you call somone who actually loves you rather than fear you they will come to help you.

Also, when someone fears you it will most likely result in them talking badly of you behind you back which will lead to others disliking you. As an end result you will be disliked by a large number of people and when you really need there help they won't be there for you.

Side: Loved
1 point

i think is better for people to have a balance between love and fear.

for the reason that if people fear you to much than no one would ever try to get to know you or try to get close to you.

but if you only want love than some people may take advantage of that and treat you how they want

Side: Loved
1 point

Its better to be loved than to be fear because instead of having to much hate thrown at you everbody gives you respect.You will feel much better, everybody talks to you and is not scared to come up to you.

When you are being fear everybody is scared to approach you. Everybody starts to talk about you behind your back, eventhough they are afraid of you.

Side: Loved
1 point

It is better to be loved because people will respect you. If everyone loves you, nobody will try to hurt you. If everyone loves each other, the world will be a happier place. Being feared will make people stay away from you. People could try to hurt you too, causing hatred.

Side: Loved
1 point

I agree with you and then I don't. Because for one just because your loved doesn't mean you won't get hurt. Everyone gets hurt feared or loved.

Side: Loved
1 point

My opinion is that everyone should feel loved then feared, because if everyone feared you your life would be lonelly. No friends, everyone would be scared to talk to you. If everyone loved you then you will always be happy. Always have somewhere to go when your sad, mad, or just need an advice.

Side: Loved
1 point

Is better to be loved then feared. If a percen is loved people like's to be close to them. People will trust you, they would be nice and they would show respected. If a Percen is feared theres less people around them.

Side: Loved
1 point

There should be a balance of both being loved than being feared. When being loved there can be some fear but being loved too much others can take advantage of being so loving so it should have its limited. Being feared has many setbacks. Is a feared person who desires to be feared capable of trusting others? Probably not.

Side: Loved
1 point

I think being loved is better than being feared, because we you are feared there is no people around you, and they wont help you at all, if they do so, is not going to be with good attitude.

And when youre loved you have many people to talk to and you can work together in a good mood.

Side: Loved
1 point

I wouldn't want people to fear me, i mean its cool if u fear me but i rather for you to love me more, everyone needs to love one another. We are Gods family and we neeed to love one another.

JUST LOVE fearEVERYONE!!

Why would you want fear anyone??

SOME DAY EVERYONE WILL LOVE EVERYONE!!

Side: Loved
1 point

It would be best to be loved because if everyone fears you, then you wont have people to talk too or have friends and every one would be scared of you. Then if everyone loves you, you would be able to have friends and have a good happy life.

Side: Loved
1 point

I wouldn't want to be feared because if you were feared not a lot of people would like you or consider you a real friend they would all be scared of you and not want to get that close to you or they would just be your friend for people to fear them too.

If you're loved people will be closer to you and you will have real friends that aren't just your friends to be feared and they will help you and be there when you need them the most.

Side: Loved
1 point

I believe that being loved is a greater thing than being feared.

The reason being, is that when ever you need a hand people will be willing to help you out. Sure people might help you out when you're feared but it wouldn't feel the same as when its coming from love.

Side: Loved
1 point

it is better to be loved, because you always have friends and your family will be always be with you. Also because in life you will need someone that really care about you and don't fear you .

But at the same time is ok because nobody will mess with you, and maybe you will find a true friend (maybe).

Side: Loved
-2 points
jericas(9) Disputed
1 point

I don't agree because being feared doesn't mean more privileges. I think it means less privileges. Because if your being feared you think someone going to give you anything. NO!

Side: Loved
jasonj(12) Disputed
1 point

That's true but on the other hand you will have no one. No one will like you or even care about you.

Say you go into a job interview with your "fear me" attitude and you act like that the entire time. Your potential employer will see that you aren't a very nice guy and end up trying to find someone else that would be assertive but nice.

So, fear may have some good advantages but with love you recieve better advantages such as people helping you.

Side: Loved
1 point

that's whats up man i totally get it now, because even if you're mean that doesnt mean you do not have to have any friends

Side: Feared